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KOTA: Knowing Ourselves Thru Art
~a creative ezine~
This Just In...
Sit With Grief...
a creative prompt & coaching tool
There is such a prevailing attitude in our world today that says, implicitly or explicitly, that grief is bad. It is one of those horrible things. Something you have to heal from or get over or move through to get to a place where there is no grief (as if that place actually exists). Some experiences seem to tell us we need to get past the grief to return to the state of being we were before the grief-causing-incident (as if you can just forget what happened and be who you were before grief came). Some experiences seem to tell us we can be changed, but it has to be spun to have a packaging that says we are some how a better person now, or we've learned something from this, or there were gifts that came from it all.
The more time I spend on this planet, the more I think both extremes of this spectrum are hooey. Really. You can keep your DSM V, and your theories, and your medical journal speak, and even your new age healing manual and workshop speak. I think that both the idea that you have to heal from grief OR the idea that you've changed now to be a better person -- ALL of it seeks to escape grief. Anything to just not sit with grief.
Heal from it. Get over it. Move past it. Integrate it. Find the gifts. Evolve from your experience with it.
While I'm sure some of these might come to be a reality for some people, I still think that most people try to steer the bereaved -- or we get sucked into steering ourselves -- toward one of these goals without ever truly SITTING WITH GRIEF. Rarely do I hear anyone say to a bereaved person, "I'll sit with you and your grief." Or, "How much time did you spend sitting with your grief today?" Or, "When you first sat with your grief, what did you think about? What did it look like?"
For some, the idea of sitting with grief is repulsive because they have not experienced grief themselves and our grief seems like a dis-ease they do not want to catch. For others, the idea of sitting with grief is overwhelming precisely because it is happening to them and they feel they'll be overcome by it.
But I propose that we can approach sitting with grief in a multitude of ways. As many tools as there are in the creative box, there are just as many ways to sit with grief. Below are a few creative ideas. Pick one at random. Write them down on strips of paper, toss in a hat, and pick one a day for a week. Just try approaching your grief in as many ways as possible, from as many angles as you can possibly dream up. You may well end up feeling a sense of healing or moving through or discovering gifts in the end, but those things are so not the point and maybe not even necessary. It is simply about discovering ways to SIT WITH GRIEF. Be in the same room. Talk to one another. Re-member your shattered heart.
As always, please feel free to share your process and results with us by leaving comment, posting links or images on MotherHenna.blogspot.com or Kotapress.blogspot.com or at the MISS Creation Station forum!
Blessing to Each of You!
Reiki to you:
SHARE THIS ZINE WITH OTHERS...
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Or you can join our Grief & Creativity Discussion Group which is a mix of caregivers, artists, and people looking for support in their own processes.
TAKE A HOME WORKSHOP
Our home workshops (click here) are set up for you to explore creatively at your own pace. We've heard from artists, bereaved families, pastors, grief support volunteers, creative therapists who have all found great benefit, both personally and professionally, from the materials and experience of our home workshops. Registration is only $35/participant this summer - start today by clicking here....
COACHING FOR YOU!
We often stop ourselves at the point of a certain permission. We cannot seem to give ourselves permission to grieve, or to learn to feel good again, or to take a new risk, or to find our own way. Coach Kara offers Creativity support as you begin and sustain your Practice of Permission!
Divine Guidance Readings...
Madame Zolda has launched her own Facebook page to offer you a free insight each day. If you want a personal session that includes Reiki meditation, card reading and creative prompts, click here to schedule today...
DO YOU PRACTICE PERMISSION?
1,000 Permissions Granted is collection of creative permission slips.
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OUR ART IS NOW YOURS!
See the heART-works now available as postcards, folded cards, matted prints, framed prints, mounted prints, and posters via MotherHenna's RedBubble shop. Check it out! Perfect for unique gifts; for interior designers shopping for clients or building resource idea folders; for heART-full meditation images! Come browse in our Gallery.